ME AND MY SHADOW
24 Dec 2010 Leave a Comment
in Cosmic Consciousness, Energy Awareness, Quantum Shifts Tags: brainwashing, New Year Resolutions, sabotage, self worth, Shadow, shame based, Truth
Here we go again. Another new year of resolutions which are “set ups” for disappointment, self-flagellation, and shame. I think it is an evil plot set up eons ago to trip us up a few yards out of the gate every year. It reminds me of the Roadrunner cartoons. The roadrunner would successfully lead Wiley Coyote into the illusion he could actually catch him. Then, of course, he’d almost die trying, and end up in a heap somewhere in the middle of nowhere.
This is how we sabotage ourselves when we buy into the illusion that we are broken and need to do ‘x, y, z’ to fix ourselves. All of Madison Avenue thrives on convincing us we are deficient and need their plan or product in order to be accepted, loved, successful or just plain alive. It is all an evil scheme based on the paradigm of “Problem – Reaction- Solution’.
Problem: “You are in danger of losing_______ if you don’t do, get or have _________.” Reaction: You believe the problem is real and that the one(s) telling you about the ominous problem have the solution. Solution: You react the way ‘they’ want you to by signing on to their program, product or belief system.
The reason the ‘problem, reaction, solution’ works so well is because we are such a shame-based world. We have become like sheep that desperately need a shepherd to tell us where to go and what to do, because we don’t believe we have the wisdom within us. It has been shamed out of us over millennia. (So don’t get ashamed by this fact!) It’s not our fault, or our parent’s fault or their parent’s fault. It’s just the way it’s been forever.
But now is a different time. I think we all feel that we are embarking on a new awareness of how Life works and what our place in the Universe is. We don’t need to buy into the Matrix slave mind set unless we want to remain irresponsible children. The new awareness requires we own our good traits and our ‘bad’ ones. We all have a little of both. If we don’t acknowledge our ‘bad’ or shadow side we are doomed to act it out and become a victim of it.
It is our unacknowledged shadow that buys into the problem –reaction- solution hype and lures us into giving our power away to authority figures that don’t have our best interests at heart. It is the part of us that says, “The devil made me do it”. If you detest prideful people, your shadow is prideful, but it is hiding from you in the darkness. You cover it with appearing humble or selfless, deceiving even yourself that you could be prideful. But until we all can acknowledge these shadow parts of us and then accept them, we are destined to act them out. They leak out in crooked ways and embarrass us at the worst possible times.
An example of this phenomenon is Elliot Spitzer of New York who hated prostitution and warred against it, only to be found hiring prostitutes himself; thus ruining his career. Rush Limbaugh railed against people addicted to drugs and then ended up a drug addict in rehab himself. Ted Haggard, head of a national evangelical religious organization that preaches against homosexuality was found to have had relations with several men, ending his reign as a religious leader.
Thankfully, none of us will go down in flames as these men did because of our hidden shadow side, but we will create havoc in our world to the degree we don’t come to terms with it. We must admit we all have one. It got installed in childhood by parents and teachers who told us we were selfish, too hyper, too _______; or, we were abused, neglected or brainwashed in shame based religions.
To be loved and accepted we created a persona that was the opposite of those ‘bad’ things and then we pretended that we no longer even had them anymore. But it was the negative part of our selfishness that pushed us to develop a more selfless, caring nature. We need both or we will won’t take care ourselves. You meet those self-sacrificing types all the time, and you want to strangle them! This is our shadow martyr side peeking out. So we learn to accept it, even appreciate it, so we can be selfless without a hook to it. We can give without strings attached.
Whatever we refuse to acknowledge in ourselves will lie in wait to devour us at the worst possible moment. Therefore, give yourself a present this New Year instead of a vacuous resolution. Get acquainted with your shadow and let it teach you how you can love and accept every part of you, regardless of what Madison Avenue tells you you’re missing.
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